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How To Create Your Divine Love In 3 Easy-Peasy Steps

How to Create Your Divine Love in 3 Easy-Peasy Steps

On January 15, 2003, I was in the middle of a huge argument with my soon-to-be ex.  I slammed the door to my home, leaving him outside to go back to his house.  As I stomped up the steps to my bedroom to try and cool off, I railed at the Universe.

“I don’t ever, ever, EVER want anything like that again!!!!  Do You HEAR ME???  NEVER!”

And in the midst of my temper tantrum, I heard a quiet voice inside say “Ok, so if that’s what you don’t want, then what DO you want?”

I stopped, still angry, and retorted, “FINE!  You wanna know what I want?  HERE’S what I want!”  And I picked up my journal and began to furiously write down characteristics.  Here is what I wrote:

He is strong: physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually.

He has integrity, honor, wisdom, kindness, courage & compassion.

He speaks only with love and listens as much as he talks.

He is spiritually-evolved, loving and open-hearted.

He is emotionally healthy, “baggage” free and addiction-free.

He is open to alternative healing and spiritual differences.

He is tolerant, unprejudiced and has a great sense of humor.

He has a “wealth consciousness” and is generous in spirit, heart and dollar.

He cherishes me and loves me in all ways, always.

He wants to be with me and makes plenty of time to do so.

He is passionate and joyous in his view of life, himself and others.

He is attractive and sexy; he looks, sounds, feels, and smells good.

He is a wonderful lover who loves only me …

… has eyes for me alone … has desire for me alone.

He is very intelligent, highly-educated and also self-taught.

He is successful career-wise and is highly compensated for it.

He loves what he does and is widely recognized for it.

He is fiscally sound and wise and supports me in all ways, always.

He has plenty of money for Christina and me in his life.

He has plenty of “room” for Christina and me in his life …

… and he wants us in his life.

He wants to commit to marriage with me.

I finished writing this, and sat back to look at it.  Immediately, I burst into tears!  My fears, my beliefs, my frustration at where I was all came up to grab me by the throat and tell me “No way, Jose!  Who are you kidding???”

Fortunately, I had been trained in EFT, so while I was so incredibly present to my fears and my beliefs that I couldn’t have what I wanted, I also had a tool at my fingertips (literally!) that I knew could release those fears and beliefs.

So, I began to tap.  Here are some of the beliefs that I had at that time:

“This guy doesn’t exist, and even if he did exist, he wouldn’t want me!”

“Who am I kidding?  After what I’ve just been through, nobody would want to get involved with that!”

“I’m not good enough.”

“I don’t deserve him.”

“I don’t deserve to be happy.”

“I can’t have what I want.”

“I’ve never had a guy like that, what makes me think I could have someone like him now?”

“Look at you, are you kidding me? You’re not a beauty queen!”

and so on.  It wasn’t pretty.  But then, it’s never pretty when we’re getting really present to our fears and our anxieties.  But, let me say this:  when we do, it is at that point in time that we have the greatest power and the greatest opportunity to change them.  Because we have looked the monster in the face and we have breathed through our fear only to discover that it was just that: a fear.  Nothing more.  And certainly not the truth.

I think I tapped for about and hour and a half straight, crying the whole time, and tapping hard on every negative thought that came up.

Finally, I felt finished.  I sighed a deep sigh, and I remember saying “Well, maybe I could have him…” and I put my journal away.  I got up and washed my face and went on with my life.

Less than three months later, one Saturday evening, I got an IM (instant message) on my computer asking if I would like to chat.  Normally, I deleted them, but there was something about the way this person asked.  It was polite and respectful.  I agreed, and we had a lovely conversation.  Later that evening we talked on the phone.

One year later, we were married.

As a wedding gift, I decided to write out that list in calligraphy and frame it for him.  As I looked it over, I realized something astonishing:  Not only was he everything I had asked for, but also … I had created the list on his birthday, two and a half months before we ever met!

What a delightful confirmation of something I already knew:  I could create my world to be what I wanted it to be.

So can you. So can we all.

We just have to get out of our own way to do it. And we have to be willing to learn and to use the tools we have to create the lives we desire and deserve.

Now … are you willing to take some action steps to help you create your Divine Love?  (By the way, this also works even if you are already married or in a relationship!  How great is that?!)

Your Take Action Steps:

1.  Get clear about what you want.  Write it down.  Be bold.  Be courageous.  Be determined. Be clear. The clearer you can be, the faster you will be able to manifest what it is you want.

2.  Get present to the conversations you have (your thoughts and beliefs) that are standing in the way of where you are and were you want to be.

3.  Tap on those beliefs until they have no negative charge anymore.

See?  Easy peasy!

Now go have fun and create your Divine Love!

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How Are Your Angels Protecting You?

 


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“I don’t feel safe,” Jenny said. “I’m worried about not only myself, but my family, too.” After the recent gas explosion in San Bruno, California, Jenny’s sister called her to share that their aunt and uncle’s home had been part of those destroyed by the fire.  Tears ran down her cheeks as we began tapping on the trauma.

 

She felt vulnerable.  We tapped on the situation and the feelings of vulnerability for some time, and nothing I said made any difference.

 

Then she began to share another trauma where she felt very vulnerable.  On 9/10/01, she was in New York.  She and her friend had visited the Twin Towers, and it was raining.  The visibility was awful.  They decided to return the next morning, 9/11.

 

Somehow they overslept.  As they were leaving their hotel to head over to the Twin Towers, they heard about the airplanes flying into the Towers.  This was the reason for an even deeper sense of vulnerability.

 

And then another, even larger, trauma surfaced.  One that happened 15 years ago.  One that she hadn’t thought about in quite some time.  And this was the one that initiated her strong feelings of vulnerability.

 

As we continued to talk (and tap) through her memories, Jenny began to feel more and more like she could relax and begin to trust again.  The tapping began to soften the intense feelings of vulnerability.

 

She began to realize that she had been protected during each situation she relayed.  In every one of these shocking events in her life, she realized that she – and her loved ones – had been protected.

 

I shared with her that I, too, used to feel very vulnerable in my home.  Growing up, I never felt completely safe.  I would jump from my bed to a throw rug in my bedroom because I sometimes imagined the wood floors were water filled with alligators ready to get me, and I would run as fast as I could up the steps from our basement because I imagined lions were chasing me.  And I frequently wondered whether people outside were watching me through the windows of our home.

 

In 2001, before 9/11, I trained with Doreen Virtue, Ph.D., as an Angel Therapy Practitioner.  What I learned with Doreen was that we can ask the angels to protect us.  We can ask them to stand guard at our doors and windows.  We can ask them to ride on the bumpers of our cars and protect us as we drive.  We can ask them to fly along with an airplane and guide the pilots’ hands, and protect the airplane.

 

When I learned this, I began to feel safe in my skin.  I also began to realize how many times I had been protected.  And as I noticed close calls being nothing more than that, I began to thank the angels for guiding and protecting me.

 

Jenny decided right then and there to begin to use this tool to help her feel safer.

 

This act of asking the angels for guidance and protection is good not only for yourself, but you can also ask for the protection of your loved ones.  You can ask them to protect your business, your bank accounts, your computers, and your clients.  Asking for, and allowing them, to offer their love and light of protection is a beautiful thing.

 

The one thing Doreen emphasized over and over was this:  you must ask for help from them.   You cannot expect them to do these things all of the time without your participation.

 

So, today, ask your angels for help.  Ask them to help guide you.  Ask them to protect you.  Ask them to protect your loved ones.  And watch what happens.  Notice how you feel.  Notice if you feel calmer and more provided for.  Notice if you have more clarity of thought.

 

I am certain you will.


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When the Divine Speaks, Do You Listen?

 


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Recently, I’ve been feeling a change bubbling up inside me.  (Ever get those?  Of course you do!)  Well, this one has been nosing its way into my awareness for some time, like a dog noses your hand to get your attention.  I wasn’t sure what this change would look like, so I just let it continue to speak to me over the course of several months.  I sat in the “not knowing,” which at times is pretty uncomfortable.

 

This all changed two weeks ago when I had a call with my new business coach, Pamela Bruner, an EFTer, a success coach trained by Jack Canfield, and a former harpist with numerous recordings to her credit.

 

Well, actually, the story begins much further back…

 

In 2000, my life turned upside down.  It ceased to exist as I knew it.  My Dark Night of the Soul had begun.

 

Through the next two and a half years, I desperately looked for healing from the emotional wounds I carried.  And, though I trained in half a dozen healing modalities, and I meditated, and prayed, and gardened and journaled, nothing kept me from going back down into that deep, dark hole of pain.

 

Until EFT. In one day, my pain, anger, shame, guilt, betrayal, and horror was gone.  Immediately, I went into share-this-with-the-world mode.  And others began to experience amazing healings, as well.  I ultimately became an expert in helping other heal their traumas.

 

During this time, my intuitive side developed, stronger and stronger and stronger.  I could feel my clients’ energies, their pain, their releases – even their thoughts – before they did.  It was an incredible marriage.

 

In 2006, my husband and I moved to Florida, where I entered several years of self-imposed quiet.  I entered the seminary and after two years, was ordained.  I realized I wanted to re-create my practice, but differently this time, with a much more spiritual bent, with a strong law of attraction component.  (Not that it hadn’t always been deeply spiritual; it had, but now the gloves were off!)

 

Through the course of re-creating my work, new (and some old) clients began to show up.  And as we worked together, they had amazing breakthroughs.  And I began to notice some similarities in the work we were doing:  every one of them (with perhaps the exception of one who already had strongly developed her intuition) was working on developing her trust in her own intuition – her own deep connection to the Divine, as she gained distinctions about what her Divine whispers felt and sounded like.

 

But while it occurred to me that this might be where I was to go with my work, I also argued with it inside my head.  “People want their lives, their loves, their work to be what they want!  Just help them think better thoughts and feel better feelings, and they can create what they want!”and “That other work might be seen as too airy fairy!  I need to do more practical work!”

 

And still, I would feel the pull.  The Divine Whispers came out of that.  They are whispers to me from the Divine for those of you who feel connected to their messages. And I began to see others in the coaching community whose work was taking on a decidedly spiritual, yes, even airy fairy, woowoo quality.  And I loved it.  I resonated with their work so deeply.

 

Finally, I could take no more.  During Pamela’s and my first talk together, I was like a volcano erupting, with months of pressure building up from the inside.

 

I knew the direction my work was calling me.  And all I could think of was “all this work I’ve already done putting what I have together.  AAGGGHHH!!!”   And yet, within a few days after our call (and after tapping, of course), I felt calmer, more serene, more trusting of this shift.  Signs had long been popping up everywhere, validating this change, and now I was ready to hear.

 

I share all of this with you because you are a dear community and you signed up for “Think It Into Being.”  Well, we are going to continue down that pathway, but with an even more evident spiritual conversation.  The old signature system I promised has been scrapped for now.  Rather, it will be morphed into a new home-study signature system, wherein we delve deeply into learning how to recognize the signs from the Universe, how we distinguish them from our egos, and how to discover your own unique ways of receiving information from the Divine, all the while laughing and learning together.

 

Each step we take together on this journey is sacred and beautiful.  To release that which is no longer a fit and to embrace that which is is what each of us are called to do as we move through life.

 

I feel blessed to walk with each of you. I know that there is a good number of you whom I know well.  You have let me into your world, and I am profoundly grateful.

 

Thank you.


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How Do You Hold Your Vision?

 


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“Do you know how hard it is to hold onto a vision when so many people and situations are telling me I can’t do this?” Alana asked. “I find myself getting caught up in the reality of what I see and hear, and then, before I know it, I’ve lost touch with my dream.  I just don’t know what to do about that.”

 

 

I could relate to what Alana was saying.  How many times had I gotten sidetracked or dropped a dream because I just lost faith that I could create it?

 

 

It is my opinion that when we really want something, our biggest enemy is ourselves.  Our biggest challenge is learning how to simply shut up the thoughts (I call them “inner conversations”) that seem to run rampant in our heads.  And then, once they’re quieted, we are far more able to hold onto that vision.

 

But here’s the question: How do you quiet that inner conversation?  How do you shift your focus from the fearfulness that that conversation brings, and hold the vision of what you want?

 

 

The number one way to do this, as always, is tapping.  Here’s why.   Tapping softens the power of your negative feelings.  And when the intensity is soften, the inner conversation gets quieted.

 

 

Gary Craig, the creator of EFT, has a powerful visual example of this in his trainings.  He asks several members of his audience to come up and stand on each side of him (say 3 on each side).  Then, he instructs one side to yell negative things in his ear “You’re an idiot!”  “You can’t do anything right!”  “What were you thinking!” and so on.  They stood close to him.

 

 

He instructed the other side to say nice things, but to whisper them. “Go, Gary!”  “You can do it!”  “That was awesome, Gary!” and so on.  He had them stand much further back behind him.

 

 

Then, he asked everyone to let loose.  The negative screamers were all anyone could hear.  And, as he began to tap, the screamers began to get quieter and quieter, and the people who were whispering positive things began to get louder and louder.  The negative ones became a whisper and they moved to the back, while the positive ones grew to a volume of shouting and they moved forward.

 

 

This visual was so powerful because it so beautifully represents what happens when we tap.  The negative screaming in our own heads become whispers, and the positive whispers become what we hear the loudest.

 

 

I, personally, have experienced this over and over and over again in my life.  And I have seen it happen in the lives of my clients, my family, my friends, and my colleagues.

 

 

Are there other ways to hold the vision?  Absolutely.  But if you want to clear those negative conversations out – and do it fast – this is the best way to do it it.

 

 

(We’ll talk about some of the other action steps in a future article.)  So, for this week…

 

 

 

Your Action Steps

 

 

1)  Become present to your own inner yellers and whisperers. Become aware of what they are saying.

 

 

2)  Begin to tap on those nasty little comments.  Even a little tapping every day on just one conversation makes a big difference over the course of a week or a month..

 

3)  Watch to see how your life begins to take shape as you tap through some of the disempowering thoughts and beliefs.  (Because it will!)

 

 

4)  Watch to see how much easier it is to hold your vision of what you want in your life once you have this tool in place.

 

 

5)  Be patient.  This sometimes takes time.

 

 

6)  Have fun with it!  Enjoy it.  Life is meant to be fun.

 

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Do You Bloom Where You are Planted?

 


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“I feel like I did something wrong,” my client, Sarah, said. “I tried and tried to think myself healthy, but somehow I ended up back in the hospital!  I don’t understand!”


She had recently come home from the hospital, after being seriously ill.  She wanted to feel better, and was trying to will herself to be better.  But one evening, she knew beyond a doubt she had to go back.  And so she did.

As her story unfolded, she shared that one evening her husband left, she was feeling a bit sorry for herself.  Flipping through the channels on her TV, she came across Joel Osteen, a well-known minister, giving a sermon.

 

“Bloom where you are planted, “ he said. “Appreciate what is going on around you right here, right now.  Trust that you are exactly where you need to be.  Be happy about it.  Give thanks for everything you can see.  Offer your faith to God that your life is just what – and where – God needs it to be.”

 

She said she felt he was speaking directly to her.  In that moment, she relaxed.  She stopped trying to will something into being.  She just decided she’d appreciate what was going on in her life.  She decided to bloom where she was planted.

 

And so she began, “I’m grateful for the drugs I’m getting.  I’m grateful for the nurses.  I’m grateful they are figuring out what’s wrong with me.  I’m grateful for the care here in this wonderful hospital.  I’m grateful for how clean it is here.  I’m grateful that I don’t have to worry about taking care of anything.  I’m grateful that my husband and my sons have come to see me.  I’m grateful that I’m so loved.”

 

And in her relaxing and just “being,” she began to heal.  She began to get better very quickly.  Within a few short days, she was well enough to be released.

 

When we talked later, she shared this story with me.  She wanted to understand why she hadn’t been able to will herself into being better.  And even more, she wanted to understand why she hadn’t been able to avoid it to begin with.

 

She told me how she had been upset with herself for getting so sick.  She couldn’t understand why she had done this to herself.  She was healthy, she had a good relationship with her husband and her sons, she had sufficient abundance.  What was going on?

I suggested that maybe she didn’t need to know right now about the “why” of it.  That, perhaps more than anything, her job was to do just what she learned in the hospital … to simply appreciate what she had right here, right now, and let go of her desire to know why it all came about.  And to trust that the “why” would be revealed in time.

 

Hearing this softened her.  She was able to return to a soft state of allowing and trusting, and let go of needing to understand all of the bigger reasons, which often don’t show up in our lives until time has passed.

The irony here is that in the appreciating of those around us, and appreciating the things that are going right and well in our lives actually gets us more of what we want.  It acts as a magnet for us to see more – more wonderfulness, more health, more joy, more love, more abundance.  But we have to do the work of appreciating. We have to do the work of being grateful.

Our work is to get out of our heads and into our hearts, to stop trying to figure things out and to stop worrying about them.  Our work is to just simply be.

Be gratitude.  Be appreciation.  Be love.  Be joy.  Be humor.  Be peace.  Be kindness.  Be compassion.  Be grace.  Be abundance.

 

Because it is in the being that we then are in the space to manifest what we want.  More health, more joy, more peace, more love, more abundance, more ideas, more happiness.

And that is what we all want.

Your Action Steps

1. Look at your life and answer these questions:

a.      Where are you spending time and energy?

b.      What are you worrying about?

c.      What are you making yourself wrong for?

d.      What can you appreciate right here, right now?

2. Decide you will start appreciating your life – even the little things that believe me, if you didn’t have, aren’t so little … like your feet carrying you around, or your fingers picking things up, or your teeth for chewing.

3.      Say “Thank you!” to everything you can see and to everyone you see (even if you say it in your heart and not out loud).

4.     Choose today to be grateful.  This moment, right here, right now.  Be grateful even for something that you are struggling with.  Be grateful for the parties involved.  Be grateful for the challenge to learn and grow (because you are learning and growing through it!).  Just say “Thank you!”

5.       Have fun with it!


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