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How To Create Your Divine Love In 3 Easy-Peasy Steps

How to Create Your Divine Love in 3 Easy-Peasy Steps

On January 15, 2003, I was in the middle of a huge argument with my soon-to-be ex.  I slammed the door to my home, leaving him outside to go back to his house.  As I stomped up the steps to my bedroom to try and cool off, I railed at the Universe.

“I don’t ever, ever, EVER want anything like that again!!!!  Do You HEAR ME???  NEVER!”

And in the midst of my temper tantrum, I heard a quiet voice inside say “Ok, so if that’s what you don’t want, then what DO you want?”

I stopped, still angry, and retorted, “FINE!  You wanna know what I want?  HERE’S what I want!”  And I picked up my journal and began to furiously write down characteristics.  Here is what I wrote:

He is strong: physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually.

He has integrity, honor, wisdom, kindness, courage & compassion.

He speaks only with love and listens as much as he talks.

He is spiritually-evolved, loving and open-hearted.

He is emotionally healthy, “baggage” free and addiction-free.

He is open to alternative healing and spiritual differences.

He is tolerant, unprejudiced and has a great sense of humor.

He has a “wealth consciousness” and is generous in spirit, heart and dollar.

He cherishes me and loves me in all ways, always.

He wants to be with me and makes plenty of time to do so.

He is passionate and joyous in his view of life, himself and others.

He is attractive and sexy; he looks, sounds, feels, and smells good.

He is a wonderful lover who loves only me …

… has eyes for me alone … has desire for me alone.

He is very intelligent, highly-educated and also self-taught.

He is successful career-wise and is highly compensated for it.

He loves what he does and is widely recognized for it.

He is fiscally sound and wise and supports me in all ways, always.

He has plenty of money for Christina and me in his life.

He has plenty of “room” for Christina and me in his life …

… and he wants us in his life.

He wants to commit to marriage with me.

I finished writing this, and sat back to look at it.  Immediately, I burst into tears!  My fears, my beliefs, my frustration at where I was all came up to grab me by the throat and tell me “No way, Jose!  Who are you kidding???”

Fortunately, I had been trained in EFT, so while I was so incredibly present to my fears and my beliefs that I couldn’t have what I wanted, I also had a tool at my fingertips (literally!) that I knew could release those fears and beliefs.

So, I began to tap.  Here are some of the beliefs that I had at that time:

“This guy doesn’t exist, and even if he did exist, he wouldn’t want me!”

“Who am I kidding?  After what I’ve just been through, nobody would want to get involved with that!”

“I’m not good enough.”

“I don’t deserve him.”

“I don’t deserve to be happy.”

“I can’t have what I want.”

“I’ve never had a guy like that, what makes me think I could have someone like him now?”

“Look at you, are you kidding me? You’re not a beauty queen!”

and so on.  It wasn’t pretty.  But then, it’s never pretty when we’re getting really present to our fears and our anxieties.  But, let me say this:  when we do, it is at that point in time that we have the greatest power and the greatest opportunity to change them.  Because we have looked the monster in the face and we have breathed through our fear only to discover that it was just that: a fear.  Nothing more.  And certainly not the truth.

I think I tapped for about and hour and a half straight, crying the whole time, and tapping hard on every negative thought that came up.

Finally, I felt finished.  I sighed a deep sigh, and I remember saying “Well, maybe I could have him…” and I put my journal away.  I got up and washed my face and went on with my life.

Less than three months later, one Saturday evening, I got an IM (instant message) on my computer asking if I would like to chat.  Normally, I deleted them, but there was something about the way this person asked.  It was polite and respectful.  I agreed, and we had a lovely conversation.  Later that evening we talked on the phone.

One year later, we were married.

As a wedding gift, I decided to write out that list in calligraphy and frame it for him.  As I looked it over, I realized something astonishing:  Not only was he everything I had asked for, but also … I had created the list on his birthday, two and a half months before we ever met!

What a delightful confirmation of something I already knew:  I could create my world to be what I wanted it to be.

So can you. So can we all.

We just have to get out of our own way to do it. And we have to be willing to learn and to use the tools we have to create the lives we desire and deserve.

Now … are you willing to take some action steps to help you create your Divine Love?  (By the way, this also works even if you are already married or in a relationship!  How great is that?!)

Your Take Action Steps:

1.  Get clear about what you want.  Write it down.  Be bold.  Be courageous.  Be determined. Be clear. The clearer you can be, the faster you will be able to manifest what it is you want.

2.  Get present to the conversations you have (your thoughts and beliefs) that are standing in the way of where you are and were you want to be.

3.  Tap on those beliefs until they have no negative charge anymore.

See?  Easy peasy!

Now go have fun and create your Divine Love!

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When the Divine Speaks, Do You Listen?

 


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Recently, I’ve been feeling a change bubbling up inside me.  (Ever get those?  Of course you do!)  Well, this one has been nosing its way into my awareness for some time, like a dog noses your hand to get your attention.  I wasn’t sure what this change would look like, so I just let it continue to speak to me over the course of several months.  I sat in the “not knowing,” which at times is pretty uncomfortable.

 

This all changed two weeks ago when I had a call with my new business coach, Pamela Bruner, an EFTer, a success coach trained by Jack Canfield, and a former harpist with numerous recordings to her credit.

 

Well, actually, the story begins much further back…

 

In 2000, my life turned upside down.  It ceased to exist as I knew it.  My Dark Night of the Soul had begun.

 

Through the next two and a half years, I desperately looked for healing from the emotional wounds I carried.  And, though I trained in half a dozen healing modalities, and I meditated, and prayed, and gardened and journaled, nothing kept me from going back down into that deep, dark hole of pain.

 

Until EFT. In one day, my pain, anger, shame, guilt, betrayal, and horror was gone.  Immediately, I went into share-this-with-the-world mode.  And others began to experience amazing healings, as well.  I ultimately became an expert in helping other heal their traumas.

 

During this time, my intuitive side developed, stronger and stronger and stronger.  I could feel my clients’ energies, their pain, their releases – even their thoughts – before they did.  It was an incredible marriage.

 

In 2006, my husband and I moved to Florida, where I entered several years of self-imposed quiet.  I entered the seminary and after two years, was ordained.  I realized I wanted to re-create my practice, but differently this time, with a much more spiritual bent, with a strong law of attraction component.  (Not that it hadn’t always been deeply spiritual; it had, but now the gloves were off!)

 

Through the course of re-creating my work, new (and some old) clients began to show up.  And as we worked together, they had amazing breakthroughs.  And I began to notice some similarities in the work we were doing:  every one of them (with perhaps the exception of one who already had strongly developed her intuition) was working on developing her trust in her own intuition – her own deep connection to the Divine, as she gained distinctions about what her Divine whispers felt and sounded like.

 

But while it occurred to me that this might be where I was to go with my work, I also argued with it inside my head.  “People want their lives, their loves, their work to be what they want!  Just help them think better thoughts and feel better feelings, and they can create what they want!”and “That other work might be seen as too airy fairy!  I need to do more practical work!”

 

And still, I would feel the pull.  The Divine Whispers came out of that.  They are whispers to me from the Divine for those of you who feel connected to their messages. And I began to see others in the coaching community whose work was taking on a decidedly spiritual, yes, even airy fairy, woowoo quality.  And I loved it.  I resonated with their work so deeply.

 

Finally, I could take no more.  During Pamela’s and my first talk together, I was like a volcano erupting, with months of pressure building up from the inside.

 

I knew the direction my work was calling me.  And all I could think of was “all this work I’ve already done putting what I have together.  AAGGGHHH!!!”   And yet, within a few days after our call (and after tapping, of course), I felt calmer, more serene, more trusting of this shift.  Signs had long been popping up everywhere, validating this change, and now I was ready to hear.

 

I share all of this with you because you are a dear community and you signed up for “Think It Into Being.”  Well, we are going to continue down that pathway, but with an even more evident spiritual conversation.  The old signature system I promised has been scrapped for now.  Rather, it will be morphed into a new home-study signature system, wherein we delve deeply into learning how to recognize the signs from the Universe, how we distinguish them from our egos, and how to discover your own unique ways of receiving information from the Divine, all the while laughing and learning together.

 

Each step we take together on this journey is sacred and beautiful.  To release that which is no longer a fit and to embrace that which is is what each of us are called to do as we move through life.

 

I feel blessed to walk with each of you. I know that there is a good number of you whom I know well.  You have let me into your world, and I am profoundly grateful.

 

Thank you.


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Check Those Thoughts at the Door!

A new friend on Twitter asked me this week “How do you stay so positive and upbeat?” I told her that I’m not always like that, but that EFT has made a huge difference in my life in being able to be that way a lot of the time.

My mother tells me that I was an unhappy child. I remember being unhappy as a teenager (not so much as a child, although I do remember some difficult periods), and making a few life choices as a young adult that I wish I hadn’t (I actually call my 20s my “stupid 20s”). Then my daughter was born and there were rainbows and sunshine and lollipops in my world.

Still, I hadn’t learned how to control my thoughts. I focused a lot on what I didn’t have, and I focused on how life wasn’t fair and where I felt less than. I thought if I could control the world around me then life would be good.

Welllll, it doesn’t quite work that way. No, indeedy. And I was about to learn this – big time.

Trauma occurred. In a big way. Ouch. It wasn’t pretty and it definitely wasn’t fun. For two and a half years, I tried many different ways to get out of the emotional pain I was in. I trained in and became a Reiki Master. I trained in and became a hypnotherapist. I trained in and became an Angel Therapy Practitioner. I studied gardening and created one. I got help from numerous different therapists. I meditated, and studied book after book to learn how to heal. Still, I got triggered over and over and over again.

Then EFT entered my life. I trained in and became an EFT practitioner. And during the first training, the emotional pain I had been in for two and a half years released. It was gone. I was stunned at how effective this simple tool was. And thrilled that I had learned it.

That was in 2002. I’ve been using it ever since – on myself, on clients, on students, on family, on friends, on pets, even on strangers! It is effective. It truly works.

Still, I had to learn the next phase: to think better. We are powerful creators, and we create through our thoughts. While I understood this conceptually, living it – being it – was a different matter. Know what I mean?

Slowly, I began to understand the power of my own thoughts to create my life. Not just my thoughts, but the energy – or the intensity of the emotion – behind my thoughts. I learned how to think better.

Oddly enough, it seemed the more I practiced thinking better the more I could see all the areas in which I wasn’t thinking better. sigh… At times, it felt discouraging, which I finally realized was me creating more of the same. Round and round and round the circle I went, until I began to really get ahold of my thinking process.

Consciousness is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. Pieces of “Ah-Ha!” happen and things fall into place. We forget and we remember. We remember and we forget. And always, we move forward – even though at times it seems as though we are moving backward.

This week, I am with my 22-year old daughter, my daughter’s fiance, my mother, and my former husband. We all get along great, for the most part. Until a bump in the road occurs. Then I get to take a look again at my own beliefs, my own expectations, my own fears, my own desires, and adjust them accordingly. Or not.

I get to choose my own level of happiness – regardless of what anyone else is doing, saying, thinking or being.

Is it hard? Yeah, you bet … sometimes. But I know what’s in it for me if I stay the course and maintain my own level of peacefulness.

Am I successful? Not always. More so than I used to be. But I still get triggered by something someone else says, or does. (This very morning, I heard myself having a conversation in my head with someone that wasn’t very nice. In that moment, I realized I was creating my future by having that conversation and I had to “Stop it!”) It is in those conscious moments that we hear ourselves and change our thoughts that we then choose the direction of our lives.

What are you thinking into being?

 

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Just How DO We Create Anyway?

That’s a rather odd thing to say, don’t you think? Well, actually you probably don’t, because you are likely familiar with the Law of Attraction and the power of your thoughts. Still, in our society, many people don’t really believe they think things into being. Rather, they believe they do things into being.

And, well, maybe they’re right.

At least, partially.

I mean, you have to DO something in order to get what you want done. The dishes don’t do themselves, do they? And a house doesn’t build itself. You do have to take action. But the action comes from the thought first.

I’m talking here about this type of understanding. The absolute clarity that everything begins with a thought first. And the belief that you carry about something is a well-practiced thought. It’s one you carry around with you, wearing it or holding it to you like a precious jewel.

“I’m right!” you cry. “See all the evidence that supports me?” And you point it out and continue to validate that belief.

(We all do this, by the way.)

Test it for yourself. See how you feel about the following statements:

1. I am the epitome of health.
2. I can create all the wealth I desire.
3. I have perfect love in my life.
4. I can do anything I want in my life, in my work, in my world.
5. I have all the time I need to do all the things I want. (Yeah, that’s a goodie, isn’t it?!)

I’ve just written this, and I’m hearing a lot of “Yeah, but…”s! (…Oh, wait, let me check, are they mine?)

Ok, well, some of them are mine, but I’m certain I’m hearing a few of yours, too, right?

Uh-huh.

So, here’s the thing: we all have “Yeah, but…”s and we have “Yeah, uh-huh, I can do that!”s, as well. It’s rather like they exist side-by-side. And sometimes one screams louder than the other, and it seems like that’s all we hear. (This is called being triggered, by the way.)

But the beginning of creating what we want in life is to begin to recognize all of those times when we are triggered – (and here’s the really important part) – to realize that it’s just a part of ourselves that isn’t the Truth of us, but rather our STORY. It is our very well-practiced thought.

Yes, it feels like it’s the truth. But it’s not. It’s just something we have practiced thinking over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over… (get the point?) again. And because we practiced thinking it like that, we believe it to be the truth.

A belief is pretty powerful, let me tell you. People are willing to sacrifice their lives for their beliefs. Some actually do.

So, let me ask you: what are you practicing thinking so much that you are believing it?

By the way, beliefs aren’t bad – they just are.

“Are what?” you ask.

“They just are. They just exist. They just are.”

When we know we have given them power is when we see how they show up in our lives by seeing what we have in our lives that we want (or don’t want).

So, Here’s the Cool Thing…

Beliefs can be changed. Yup. They can be changed. (I know you know this; I’m just saying it because it goes here. It’s the Truth.)

So, if a belief is something you think over and over again, then a way to change that belief is to think something ELSE over and over again.

(It ain’t easy, let me tell ya. But it can be done, thank goodness, otherwise I wouldn’t be here.)

For example, if you believe “I can’t create wealth and I frankly don’t know anyone who has. Who am I kidding? What am I trying to be? This is a joke!”

Well, first of all let me say “COOL! You know what you believe. And that’s HALF the journey!” (If you don’t know, then you can’t change it, right?)

Well, how about trying something like this: “Even though I don’t know how to create wealth, and I don’t know anyone who has, it’s ok. There are plenty of people out there who have created wealth (even though I don’t know who they are personally) and I can learn from them. I can take classes, and I can take inspired action to be able to create my wealth. And I can think wealthy thoughts, and, oh, wow, I really like thinking wealthy thoughts. They make me happy. So, I’m going to think some wealthy thoughts and just see what opens up for me out of that.”

I think you’ll find it’s a bit softer than “I can’t create wealth.” And when it’s softer, then you begin to move in that direction. Things begin to open up for you. And then you begin to notice more weath coming into your life. Keep it up, and before you know it, you are wealth in expression.

It all begins with a thought that you keep thinking over and over and over and over (did I say over?) again.

So Here’s the Next Really Cool Thing…

If you use EFT with those newly tried-on thoughts (or even with the old ones) you’ll move more into alignment with the new ones (and out of alignment with the old ones) faster. Yes, F-A-S-T-E-R. It’s as though you turbo-charge the new beliefs into being.

Does it take time?

Uh-huh. Of course.

But, what the heck? You’re thinking those other less-than-empowering thoughts over and over and over again anyway. Why not just gently begin to change the focus and your intent, and think far more empowering thoughts over and over and over again. You will begin to see changes in your life. Dramatic changes.

I promise you. I really do.

Now go practice. And have fun with it!

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10 Inner Beliefs That Block Your Wealth

“A belief is just a thought that you keep thinking over and over again.”

– Abraham-Hicks

I was recently working with a client who has been struggling to build her business. She feels as though no matter what she does, she just can’t get a break. The economy collapsed. The person delivering her products took her money and ran. The assistant who was helping her turned out to be a nightmare. And so on.

These are all very legitimate issues. They are all very real challenges that she has been facing. Still, when we began to look further into her inner conversation about wealth, some interesting beliefs began to crop up. As she began to explore these beliefs, she began to see that she had been making choices regarding her business from those beliefs.

For example, the above statement “No matter what I do, I just can’t get a break” is one we’ve all heard numerous times in our lives. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy if you think it often enough. And yet, people say it without even thinking.

For my client, it certainly seemed as though she wasn’t getting a break. However, once we began to tap on (use EFT) that belief or affirmation, she began to soften the negative charge she was feeling with it. Once the negative charge softened, she began to see the areas in which she was receiving breaks: customers who were placing orders; other products being shipped on time and in correct amounts, people who came forward to help her after her assistant left.

But – and here’s the important point here – before she tapped, she felt as though she really couldn’t get a break. She had deleted out the other wonderful “breaks” she was getting in her life. She, in essence, couldn’t even see the good breaks because the feeling that she couldn’t get a break was so active within her.

Because that belief had been so charged up in her vibration, or to say it another way, had been so strongly held, she was actually making bad business decisions because of it. She had chosen the assistant because she was in a hurry and hadn’t wanted to spend a lot of time looking for someone. She had trusted the guy with the products, even though she had felt a little “uh-oh” feeling in her gut.

Each one of us has similar conversations inside ourselves. Because this particular article is about money, I am going to focus on our common inner money talk. If you discover that some of these resonate with you, please, PLEASE tap to shift the charge of those beliefs. You will be awfully glad you did! (Even if you only feel a little twinge; tap anyway. It’s in there!)

1. I don’t deserve to have a lot of money.
2. Money doesn’t just grow on trees, you know.
3. I can’t do it. I don’t know how to get a lot of money.
4. People will think I think I’m better than they are if I am wealthy.
5. People will hate me if I have a lot of money.
6. Everyone will want something from me if I have a lot of money.
7. People like me don’t become wealthy.
8. I’d have to manage it all and I don’t know how to do that. OR
9. I’d have to trust someone to manage it all and I don’t know who to trust.
10. Life is just so hard! Who am I kidding to think I can create what I want?

As you tap on these beliefs, you will begin to feel them shift and melt away. The power – or negative emotional charge – will soften and you will actually begin to feel freer. Look for signs of energy release such as sighs or yawns. Or you may just wonder what the big deal is all about anyway. You may simply go on to something else and forget you ever felt that way.

All of that is normal as you shift your energy. Don’t you owe it to yourself to change your point of attraction by changing your inner beliefs? After all, what else are you doing?


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