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3 Ways to Step into Your Magical Self

Last week, the Divine (or Spirit or God or the Universe – whatever you like to call it) showed me something that validated this journey we are all on together:  when you put your intention out there, when you speak it to others, it shows up in your life. Now this isn’t something new; I’ve been preaching this to you (the metaphorical choir) from the beginning.

And yet, I discovered again how true it is.  Let me tell you what happened…

On Thursday, Feb. 25, I wrote the blog for Saturday, Feb. 27.  I sent it to Christina (my assistant) as she was taking on more of the administrative work.  I then left it in her capable hands to get out to you guys, and to get posted onto my website, which she did.

Here’s what that blog said:

 

February 27, 2010 – Today’s Affirmation: I tune into the magic of my soul!

 

Today, I am clear about how magical I am.

I realize that I have the ability to create my life to be just what I desire most.  And while I am aware I must learn how to do this better and better, today, I spend time being present to that magic that I already am.  I spend time being present to the power I already have.  I spend time being present to the wonder that I already have created.

Today, I see my alchemist abilities grow and grow.  I love feeling magical and charmed! I connect with these abilities, and I realize that I AM these abilities!

I AM Magical!  I AM Charmed!

And so it is.

 

On Saturday night (the night the blog was published), as I was getting out of the shower and blowing out the candles (yes, I had taken a shower by candlelight which was oh, so nice!), I thought “Aaaahhh, magic!”  And then I remembered a number of other magical experiences of the day:  a lovely nap, a yummy foot rub given to me by Francisco (my beloved hubby), a candlelight dinner with him, errands run that were fun and completely delightful, a cuddling time with Pixie, my sweet kitty, a delicious fruit salad meal with my favorite fruits, my Valentine’s Day roses that were now in full bloom, a beautiful full moon that I could see from the window as I was taking my wonderful shower, a phone call with someone dear to me, and so on.

You see, when we state our intention not only to ourselves, but to the world around us, we begin to notice how our lives show up and how the Divine supports our statement of intention.  Now here’s the thing:  if we are in alignment with our statement, then life just flows to us.  If, however, we are not in alignment with our statement, well, then … uh-oh.  Watch how the Universe will show you the areas where you are not in alignment.  It is then your work to move yourself into alignment with your intention.  (That’s always our work, by the way.)

It’s obvious that I was in alignment with feeling magical and charmed.  I had no resistance to it.  And yes, for those of you who are asking, there are statements I write that I’m not fully in alignment with… of course.  However, having said that, I am always moving into alignment with them and paying attention to what the Divine is showing me AND doing the work.  Why?  Because I want my life to be one that works for me in all ways, one that is so completely in alignment with my conscious intention that I have no resistance to being at one with the Divine.  It’s worth doing the work.

So, here are the lessons from this:

1.    State your intention for what it is you want. Do you want a beautiful day?  State it.  Do you want a productive meeting?  State it.  Do you want to feel abundant?  State it.  The Universe hears and brings to you want you have stated.

2.    State your intention to others. Here’s where it gets tricky.  When you state your intention to others, be very clear that you may have those who will not support you.  But guess what?  These naysayers are your best teachers.  Why?  Because they are letting you know that a part of you believes (or is fearful about) what they are saying.  Your work then becomes clearing that resistance out.

3.    Pay attention to how the Divine delivers your intention.  Because it will.  It might be in small doses.  So what?  Pay attention to them and fill yourself with gratitude for those doses.  You are strengthening your belief in yourself and your ability to co-create with the Divine when you notice your life working.

 

Your Action Steps:

To start playing with this in a conscious co-creative way, it’s time to take some steps.

1.    Get clear about what you want right here, right now.  (By the way, be gentle with yourself here.  Choose non-resistant things that will help you build your energy of belief in yourself and in your abilities.)

2.    Begin to state what it is you want to yourself, to the Divine.

3.    If you are ready, begin to state what it is you want to others.

4.    Pay attention to how it shows up in your life – in large or in small doses.

5.    Acknowledge the areas that show up. (This will increase your own believability in yourself.)

6.    Be grateful.  (You will begin to manifest more and more, faster and faster with this one simple tool: gratitude.)

7.    Have fun with it!

 

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How Can I Grow My Business?

One of my favorite topics these days is “how can I grow my business?” (Just ask my family, they hear me talk about it incessantly.)  I don’t mean to be a one-note Jill, but for some reason, it is just about all I think about.

I am fascinated by the process this journey requires.  There is not only the experience of figuring out what I want to offer, but also the method or way in which I intend to offer my gifts to the world.  This means, well, products, services, and marketing.

I never paid much attention to this – not really – when I had a practice where I saw people one-on-one for sessions.  I would regularly give talks and presentations, but I never went much beyond the Yellow Pages ad.  I had planned on creating more of my work online at some point in time, but I was never really sure where to go with it or what to offer or how to do it.  I mean, I frankly struggled with dealing with a website.

Then, I met Mande White.  Mande attended one of my workshops, and I liked her instantly.  We became friends over the course of a year, as well as colleagues.  She helped me immensely when it came to “How the heck do I do THIS?” (whatever “this” was).  Mande has her own business, where she teaches people how to use the social media world for their businesses.  She is in great demand, and clients absolutely love her, because she explains things so well, and gives so much.

Since then, I’ve been learning how to move forward doing what I love to do.  I will say, however, it’s been a real journey.  And not much fun sometimes.  I get stuck in my own inner conversations that say “This is too hard!” or “I don’t know how to DO it!” or “Who am I kidding? My dream is just so much bigger than I know how to create!”  The thing is, magical people have been coming forward to help me.

First, it was the Magnificent Mande White.  Then entered Alicia Forest, an incredible coach who teaches how to build your business online.  Then yummy Jan Masters, who is an amazing coach who helps people maintain their sense of joy in life.  Then MamaRed Knight, who does awesome, fun, and energizing radio shows.  Then Melissa Hart, a wonderful assistant, who makes cold calls for me, and loves doing it!  (Imagine that!) Then Sharon Savage, a delightful VA, who has been taking the load off my shoulders and putting it onto hers (all the while laughing with me).

What I’ve realized is this:  I don’t have to know how to create what it is I want.  Spirit (or the Universe or God or whatever you want to call that energy of Love and Light and Beauty and Syncronicity) is bringing to me the perfect people at the perfect time to help me take that next step.  I don’t have to have it all planned out.  I can just trust and have faith that it will.

(This from a minister.  See, I’m still learning, too.)  To quote my daughter:  “It’s all good.”


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Do You Bloom Where You are Planted?

 


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“I feel like I did something wrong,” my client, Sarah, said. “I tried and tried to think myself healthy, but somehow I ended up back in the hospital!  I don’t understand!”


She had recently come home from the hospital, after being seriously ill.  She wanted to feel better, and was trying to will herself to be better.  But one evening, she knew beyond a doubt she had to go back.  And so she did.

As her story unfolded, she shared that one evening her husband left, she was feeling a bit sorry for herself.  Flipping through the channels on her TV, she came across Joel Osteen, a well-known minister, giving a sermon.

 

“Bloom where you are planted, “ he said. “Appreciate what is going on around you right here, right now.  Trust that you are exactly where you need to be.  Be happy about it.  Give thanks for everything you can see.  Offer your faith to God that your life is just what – and where – God needs it to be.”

 

She said she felt he was speaking directly to her.  In that moment, she relaxed.  She stopped trying to will something into being.  She just decided she’d appreciate what was going on in her life.  She decided to bloom where she was planted.

 

And so she began, “I’m grateful for the drugs I’m getting.  I’m grateful for the nurses.  I’m grateful they are figuring out what’s wrong with me.  I’m grateful for the care here in this wonderful hospital.  I’m grateful for how clean it is here.  I’m grateful that I don’t have to worry about taking care of anything.  I’m grateful that my husband and my sons have come to see me.  I’m grateful that I’m so loved.”

 

And in her relaxing and just “being,” she began to heal.  She began to get better very quickly.  Within a few short days, she was well enough to be released.

 

When we talked later, she shared this story with me.  She wanted to understand why she hadn’t been able to will herself into being better.  And even more, she wanted to understand why she hadn’t been able to avoid it to begin with.

 

She told me how she had been upset with herself for getting so sick.  She couldn’t understand why she had done this to herself.  She was healthy, she had a good relationship with her husband and her sons, she had sufficient abundance.  What was going on?

I suggested that maybe she didn’t need to know right now about the “why” of it.  That, perhaps more than anything, her job was to do just what she learned in the hospital … to simply appreciate what she had right here, right now, and let go of her desire to know why it all came about.  And to trust that the “why” would be revealed in time.

 

Hearing this softened her.  She was able to return to a soft state of allowing and trusting, and let go of needing to understand all of the bigger reasons, which often don’t show up in our lives until time has passed.

The irony here is that in the appreciating of those around us, and appreciating the things that are going right and well in our lives actually gets us more of what we want.  It acts as a magnet for us to see more – more wonderfulness, more health, more joy, more love, more abundance.  But we have to do the work of appreciating. We have to do the work of being grateful.

Our work is to get out of our heads and into our hearts, to stop trying to figure things out and to stop worrying about them.  Our work is to just simply be.

Be gratitude.  Be appreciation.  Be love.  Be joy.  Be humor.  Be peace.  Be kindness.  Be compassion.  Be grace.  Be abundance.

 

Because it is in the being that we then are in the space to manifest what we want.  More health, more joy, more peace, more love, more abundance, more ideas, more happiness.

And that is what we all want.

Your Action Steps

1. Look at your life and answer these questions:

a.      Where are you spending time and energy?

b.      What are you worrying about?

c.      What are you making yourself wrong for?

d.      What can you appreciate right here, right now?

2. Decide you will start appreciating your life – even the little things that believe me, if you didn’t have, aren’t so little … like your feet carrying you around, or your fingers picking things up, or your teeth for chewing.

3.      Say “Thank you!” to everything you can see and to everyone you see (even if you say it in your heart and not out loud).

4.     Choose today to be grateful.  This moment, right here, right now.  Be grateful even for something that you are struggling with.  Be grateful for the parties involved.  Be grateful for the challenge to learn and grow (because you are learning and growing through it!).  Just say “Thank you!”

5.       Have fun with it!


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What Do You REALLY Want?

Last Thursday, my daughter, my only baby, graduated from college. And the Saturday before that, my nephew graduated from college. (Exciting, huh? Oh, yeah, Baby!)

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When asked about their futures, they had similar answers, but very different plans. My daughter, Christina, wants to get a job in her field of theatre. And she’s engaged to be married, so she’s full of wedding plans. My nephew, Rob, is heading to law school in the fall. Different plans. And both of them say they really don’t know what they want to do with their lives. Similar answers.

Yet they both want the same things: happiness, love, fulfillment, abundance, freedom, peace of mind. We all want that, don’t we? (I know I do.)

So the question really isn’t “What plans do you have for your future?” or “What are you going to do now?” (although those are the most commonly-asked questions of people their age). Rather, the question is “What is it that you want in your life?”

Or even more to the point “Who are you going to be (and what are you going to think) to create what it is you that want?” Of course, nobody would really ask that question to someone they just met. That’s a very intimate, very personal question.

So, I’ll ask it here, for you to ask yourself: “Who am I going to be, and what am I going to think, to create what it is I want in my life?”

Hmmm… let’s just back it up a little bit further.

Let me ask this question: “What is it that I want in my life anyway?” Most of us think of what we want in life as the avenue through which what we REALLY want is attained or traveled.

For example, let’s just say I met someone who wants to be a chef. And I ask them “What is it about being a chef that you love?” Then they tell me “Oh, well, I love working with food.” (That’s the avenue through which what they REALLY want is attained.)

Then I might ask them, “Great! So what is it about working with food that you love?” They may say, “I love tasting it, and I love creating something beautiful and delicious.” (Still more of the avenue, but we are getting closer to the heart of what it is they really want.)

So I then would ask, “What is it about creating that you love?” And they might say, “Well, I get into a space where everything just falls away, and I become one with the food.”

Well, dear ones, then THAT right there is what you want in your life. It is the connection to Spirit, to the Divine that you are seeking. And it is through the avenue of being a chef that it is attained.

You can try this out with anything you want in your life. Say, for example, you want to be in a loving relationship. Then you can ask yourself “What is it about being in a loving relationship that I love?” You’ll begin to see that it isn’t about having another person in your life, but rather it is about the connection you have with that person that is the expression of Divinity itself – and that is what you ultimately want.

And the happiness, peace of mind, abundance, love, fulfillment and freedom that I mentioned above? Well, they are all simply expressions of that connection.

The more we connect to Divinity or Spirit, the more we experience those characteristics – no matter what we do in our lives. When we be connection, we then experience the fruits of that beingness.

So, what is it that you really want in your life?

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