I worked with a mentor for about a year in my business and I didn’t get what was promised. I’m upset and angry that I wasted all that money. In some ways, I feel like I was cheated!
It makes me all the more apprehensive about working with anyone again. How can I feel better about what I did?
Dear Divine One –
So many people are investing in themselves and their businesses these days with mentors. And some people get a lot out of their investments, and some people don’t.
Here’s why (and you may not like the answer):
Some people do the work.
Some people don’t.
It’s as simple as that.
Think about how you are perceiving your experience. You are comparing your experience with someone else’s, and finding your experience to be less-than.
Here’s the thing: not everyone gets the same results because:
- not everyone starts out at the same place in their business;
- not everyone needs to move through the same mindset shifts;
- not everyone is clear about where they are in their business when they begin;
- not everyone is clear about whom they serve;
- not everyone is clear about the transformation they provide
- not everyone can articulate that transformation well;
- not everyone has the same skills in marketing their services;
- not everyone has the same skills in building their business;
and the list goes on.
Get the point?
If you had to get clear or develop any of these pieces or skills, it is natural for it to take you longer to build your business or to get the results from the mentoring. Building a strong, successful business is a time-consuming, skill-developing experience. It doesn’t happen over night, or even in one year.
Plus, the more mindset shifts you need to go through with your mentor, the longer it will take you to build your business. The fact that you are upset and angry that you “wasted” money indicates that you still have some major mindset shifts to go through in order to build your business powerfully.
Here’s what I mean by that:
You are framing your experience as though you are a victim.
As though you have (or had) no power or control over the outcome.
Instead of owning that you made the decision to work with your mentor and that you made decisions during your time with your mentor to take certain actions, you are choosing to feel “cheated”; like you wasted your money.
You feel this way is because you are not standing in your power about the decisions you made – both with hiring your mentor and with following through on the guidance given.
This is like someone attending college, failing their courses because they didn’t do the work, but then blaming her professors.
You attended business training but are now blaming your mentor for your results. While I will agree that there are lousy professors and lousy mentors, it’s your attitude I’m referring to here.
(One of these might be to recognize when you are giving your power away to someone else and feeling victimized. And if you get that lesson, you will have gotten your money’s worth, multiplied!)
Sometimes, people think from a small, myopic view: if I invest x dollars, then I must see x results or else I’ve wasted my money.
The truth of the matter is, they actually need to learn x lesson before they can see x results.
They need to do significant inner work
in order to manifest the outer results.
Such is the case here. Clean up your victim mentality, and see what the gifts were from the choices you made. (I promise you there are many if you will choose to look.)
Appreciate those gifts and the mentor who provided you the opportunity to experience them! When you do this, you will get the results you so desire!
Now go get your Divine ON!